Mini- mothers

Mini - mothers

I always remember the people in my life who made a significant positive impact in my life, whether because they lifted me up, encouraged or supported me, or gave me powerful feedback for growth, or because they believed in me. It may be because they cared or wanted to return for what my parents served them during their difficult trying hardship days.

After my parents passed away my close relatives (mother's side "Kansakar" community and father's side "Tuladhar" community ) became mini - mothers as a replacement inorder to protect us from the environment. The care they were giving to orphand daughters of my mother were giving used to be good because they had high regards for my mother, however, also painful.

Our relatives traded along the silk road in Tibet. The bread earner would visit the house only after ten to fifteen years. Whatever earnings they used to bring back used to be looted by the Rana regime. Therefore the male members were very secretive about their business outcomes. These rulers also used to whisk away women and girls. Therefore they also used to be banned from peeping out of the windows. They were strictly prohibited from going out of the house without escort. The houses used to have windows covered with wood carvings with pigeon holes with a design which ensured that people inside were not visible from outside and roads used to be visible from inside.

Education was banned till 1951 and hence these aunties lacked knowledge too. These mini - mother aunts of ours got married at the age of six, some at the age of nine and some at twelve and grew up in a very closed conservative environment and the social norms. They were born in a cage always preached flying was an illness. Their education materials were only listening to god fearing stories based in illusionary concepts being told by Pandits. They tried to control us and others in their own way, protecting women and girls in a conservative way. We six sisters received very conservative mentorship from these mini - mothers after our mother passed away.

My mother turned a revolutional figure against all social norms and participated in overthrowing the Rana regime. The mentoring we seven children received from our mother was totally different from our conservative mini -mothers. Lot of their norms confused us and we often ran into conflict with these mini- mothers.

After media censorship was lifted by the government then people started writing about my father and mother. In B S 2048, 100 people (politicians, writers, poets and social workers ) published articles on my father (Smriti Grantha book). It was through those published articles that we seven children got to know more about my parents. Since all seven of us were in the technical professional fields we are really late in understanding my father and his contributions in this nation.